I have reflected for several years on the importance of transparency in the process towards marriage, as well as in marriage.
I am blessed in my marriage with Aina. We have been married for 5 years and 4 months, and every day is a blessing. We enjoy our love, trust and integrity. I had nothing to hide before we got married, and neither did she. No surprises. We are simply real with each other.
In our Western free-for-all society, the young ones choose their life-partner themselves, and that is surely something beautiful.
However, the counsel of mom and dad, and even spiritual counsel, can be a life-benefitting matter, even crucial.
How much should lovers know about family and personal background before marriage?
What if the one you marry has a dark background of serious sexual abuse in the family…..?
What if the one you marry has “secret” children…..?
Transparency and accountability are the keys! It is not about condemnation!